Whenever you think ' WHY ME ? '

Friends, I am going to talk in this article about a simple word, Adversity.

What is adversity?

We can say it’s a term generally defined as, A state of misfortune, or, A state of adverse conditions. Google defines it as,

      A state of hardship or affliction; misfortune.

      A calamitous event.

Did it really define it to the point?

Nope, I don’t think so!

It’s very obvious in one way or other, each and every living being on this earth, has experienced it. From the minute ants till the giant elephants, and we all of course! Not only after an infant enters this world but right from the time, before a baby is born, with a plethora of care, it has to survive in a mother’s womb. A minute mistake in this may lead to any fatal situation!

As it grows, it enters in the competitive world. Then it might be a competition with its siblings or friends, or winning a small race. Next it comes up with the challenges of scoring good grades or winning up a trophy, or beating someone in the play-station. As a grown up adult, it has to stabilize with all the circles, like family, friends, a special someone and above all ‘The self’.

Thus, in every phase of our life, there comes this situation called “Adversity” to what most of us consider mere lack of fate. ‘Maybe it was not the right direction for us’, we think and drop down the trauma there or I should say drop down one trauma and enter into another trauma of grievance! All of us has gone through ‘Why me?!!?’ dose several of times, isn’t it?  Well, I’ll come back to this question later. Let’s read one short biography first.

By 2007, the world got introduced to an immense and an extraordinary novelist. Her seven striking hit series of the novels, year by year in a row, became the world’s best-seller! Can you venture a guess who am I talking about? (Oh yeah, Potter fans I hear that right!) J. K. Rowling-aka-Joanne Rowling. Her success is not unknown to anyone. I wanna take you back in 1990, in a four hours delayed train trip from Manchester to London. This was the moment when an idea coined up in her mind. A young boy attends a magical school of witchcraft and wizardry. The idea soon turned into implementation. She began to write right as she reached destined junction! She was pretty excited about her idea of writing something big but unfortunately before she could talk about it to anyone the following December she lost her mother. She got married two years later and gave a birth to baby girl the next year. Before that, she had already suffered a miscarriage. Year 1993; this was the year when dark clouds grounded upon her life, when her marriage got shattered. They say she endured domestic abuses. Rowling, totally devastated, marked herself growing as a total failure. A woman; who, in her mediocre age, lost the company of her mother; whose marriage turned out to a failure; who was jobless and on whom a small child was relying. All these intercepted a clinical depression and even contingent suicide. However, you always have to live for your growing kid. Rowling lived on welfare benefits. Here, the welfare benefit means financial assistance allotted by the state to the needy individuals. By 1995, she finished her first manuscript. It was submitted to twelve publishing houses, all of which rejected. Somehow, Barry Cunningham agreed to publish, though advised Rowling to get a day job since she had a little chance of making money in children books. She continued writing with a faith. Well well, fortune favors the brave and so it did in the case of J. K. Within five years her faith and perseverance lead her from a shatter pated lady to a multimillionaire!  

This was just a minor example. Friends, if you give it a deep thought, everyone around you and everything that you see, is trying to say out loud the lesson, “Do not give up”. Say, the television. Basically what’s the idea of every daily soaps, most of your favorite series, any kids’ superhero movie, or the dark touchy love-stories? In all of these, the lead’s life is ruined to the core, so that they can come out sparkling at their best.

It’s very well said that man is a social animal. Now, what’s the difference between actual animals and so-called social animal? We say, humans have got minds that are wise. Are they really? If your answer is yes, I would contradict over here. I say, all the creatures but humans are wiser!

Let me explain why.

Do you remember, as a kid, at least once, you must have played with the little ants, tortured them by blocking their way. Did you mark, no matter how many times you kept your hands or objects on their path, they never took a U-turn from their direction and instead moved aside and continued ahead! Birds! Howsoever time we make them fly; they won’t stop catching their prey. Then, monkeys! Even they won’t stop running after their food by any hook or crook.

Deeply thinking, all of the creatures have this striving ability. Practically, we can say that they are wiser than mankind. And what do we do in such loathed situations, enter question à “Why me!??”

Why you, because somewhere your fate knows you are strong enough to rescue yourself. Just speaking out loud that ‘I am the Boss of Me!’ won’t change your attitude. Life keeps challenging you every day. Turning the tables and challenging your life makes you the Boss of You. Courage is the need of situation. As without it, Jerry could never have outwitted Tom, little Nemo could never have met its daddy, Tweety could have never have got rid of Sylvester, Richie Rich could never have saved his property loots, Scooby Doo and his friends wouldn’t have been able to solve mysteries, poor Simba cub couldn’t have managed to become the Lion King and all the superheroes of the Justice League would never have emerged.

So now, we can discover here, the new definition of Adversity:

The state or calamitous situation; in which you are the chosen one, so that you can recreate the same into some constructive one.

Roger That:

Stop whining. The dark tunnel ends with the light outside. You simply need to follow the light J